Joanne Gilhooly - Psychotherapist & Counsellor - Dublin City - B.A. (Hons) Counselling & Psychotherapy, Dip. Gestalt, MIACP
Dublin Counselling and Psychotherapy Blog

Do Not Seek Advice....

"When setting out on a journey, do not seek advice from people who have never left home." ~ Rumi
















Keeping Sane (Part 1)....Boundaries, Needs, and Limits

Alright, I’ve been having a little think about boundaries and staying sane when there is madness going on all around (or anytime for that matter).

So, I thought it might be helpful to share a few guidelines that I try to live by. Maybe they’ll speak to you, maybe they won’t. 
It’s all good, take what feels helpful, if any.

Here goes:

1. Let other people do their own emotional work. That means, when you express your feelings and establish some limits for yourself, other people’s discomfort about that is not your work to do, it’s theirs.

Pandemic Life: Understanding Backwards and Living Forwards



Existential philosopher Soren Kierkegaard said “Life can only be understand backwards, but must be lived forwards”. There is a limit to what we can control and what we can plan for and if 2020 so far has anything to teach us, it is that.

In these pandemic days we have been plunged into uncertainty, into a situation that will only truly be understood backwards and must be lived forwards. There are times that we can get around this to a certain extent, we can keep our personal world small and surround ourselves only with the familiar and predictable.

I Haven't Shaken It Off Yet....

"There is much that is wrong with the world. The road twists and turns and it is long, and I forget, sometimes, about the horizon and the mountains and the blue. I forget where I am and I narrow my eyes and clench my fists when strangers approach me to offer me kindness, and when I stand alone on an empty beach I check the time in case there’s someplace else I need to be. I haven’t shaken it off yet, this instinct we have to annihilate our moments, to turn them into dust and build them into hours and days and weeks and months and years, just so we can look back and see all these piles of time that we’ve collected, burial mounds of dead time, because we didn’t have the sense to live the moments that it’s made of.

On Guilt...


"You should never reduce the mystery and expanse of your presence to a haunted fixation with something you did or did not do. To learn the art of integrating your faults is to begin a journey of healing on which you will regain your poise and find new creativity. Your soul is more immense than any one moment or event in your past. When you allow guilt to fester and reduce you like this, it has little to do with guilt. The guilt is only an uncomfortable but convenient excuse for your fear of growth.