Alright, I’ve been having a little think about boundaries and staying sane when there is madness going on all around (or anytime for that matter).
So, I thought it might be helpful to share a few guidelines that I try to live by. Maybe they’ll speak to you, maybe they won’t.
It’s all good, take what feels helpful, if any.
1. Let other people do their own emotional work. That means, when you express your feelings and establish some limits for yourself, other people’s discomfort about that is not your work to do, it’s theirs.
Existential philosopher Soren Kierkegaard said “Life can
only be understand backwards, but must be lived forwards”. There is a limit to
what we can control and what we can plan for and if 2020 so far has anything to
teach us, it is that.
In these pandemic days we have been plunged into uncertainty,
into a situation that will only truly be understood backwards and must be lived
forwards. There are times that we can get around this to a certain extent, we
can keep our personal world small and surround ourselves only with the familiar
"You should never reduce the mystery and expanse of your presence to a haunted fixation with something you did or did not do. To learn the art of integrating your faults is to begin a journey of healing on which you will regain your poise and find new creativity. Your soul is more immense than any one moment or event in your past. When you allow guilt to fester and reduce you like this, it has little to do with guilt. The guilt is only an uncomfortable but convenient excuse for your fear of growth.
"No one imagines that a symphony is supposed to improve in quality as it goes along, or that the whole object of playing it is to reach the finale. The point of music is discovered in every moment of playing and listening to it. It is the same, I feel, with the greater part of our lives, and if we are unduly absorbed in improving them we may forget altogether to live them."
~ Alan Watts