When our self-esteem is low, we may become highly self-critical, berating ourselves for mistakes, or holding ourselves to unattainably high standards - perfectionism. Our sense of being ok as a person may hinge on whether or not we meet these standards, how we perform in a given task, how we look, who is attracted to us, how strong we are, what our job is, what kind of car we drive, etc. When we do not meet these standards we become vulnerable to feeling low about ourselves and feeling ‘less than’ others, who may appear to us to have it all together. We may avoid tasks that we are not instantly good at, to avoid self-criticism and yet another blow to our fragile sense of being good enough. ‘Negative’ feedback, or feedback about mistakes we have made, can feel devastating, instead of constructive. When self-esteem is low, we are unable to accept that we are human, that mistakes are inevitable, especially when we are learning, and that they are not at all reflections of our worth or value as people.